According to his soon-to-be ex-wife, Cynthia Rodriguez, Alex Rodriguez has his priorities – and they are not his children. In an email she sent to a confidant (obviously not much of one since the email has gotten out), she said

“My 6-foot-3, 220-pound soul-less, soon-to-be ex-husband is abandoning his kids on Thanksgiving to be with Madonna . . . She called and he ran on her command back to New York City . . . Gross!”

Instead of ushering in the holidays in Miami with his children,Natasha, 4, and Ella, 1 – A-Rod, 33, is hosting a dinner at his Manhattan apartment for Madonna, 50, and her kids, Lourdes,Rocco and David, and manager Guy Oseary.

The friend of Cynthia said A-Rod’s furious ex described Madonna in “not so nice terms” in the e-mail.

To add insult to injury, after Rodriguez left Miami at Madonna’s beck and call, his lawyer called Cynthia and wanted her to sign the couple’s divorce settlement.

When Cynthia filed for divorce last summer, she cited irreconcilable differences and claimed her husband had an “affair of the heart” with Madonna. The sinewy pop siren claimed at the time she was still “happily married” to Guy Ritchie, but two months later she and Ritchie filed for divorce. Since then, Madonna and A-Rod have been inseparable.

An insider told Page Six, “Alex likes a woman with a strong hand. He likes to be told what to do. He’s a bit of a cipher.”

A rep for A-Rod declined to comment.